Ugly people can't come

What should one do when met with criticism or insult? What should one do when called ugly? Picture it: you are in a room with your friends, a certain person not in the room gets mentioned and then things said person said get brought up until, unfortunately, you learn of what said person said. They insulted you, called you ugly, said you were unworthy. What to do? Of course the truth came out at such an inopportune time, you are with friends, freaking out is not an option. Cry? I think not! Letting them see your weakness is unacceptable. One must stay stately in this situation. Knowing that this comment would upset anyone "friends" try to bring you solace, but it does not help. The damage is done. It was explicit and it extirpated you. "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never harm me" is a load of crap. Words hurt, they get inside the mind and remind you of your many imperfections. The fact that your so called friend even let you know of such behind the back talk, well, it almost seems like a premeditated slap to the face. I can see it now. "Hahahaha. I am worthy, you are not you ugly brute!" High school, filled with frivolous crap and shallow people ready to kick you straight in the mouth. Anyway, back to the moment. As your "friend" sits there, with what looks like a malicious grin, telling you of your ugliness, you realize you cannot lose control. You find the strength to suppress the anger and sorrow rising up within the throat. Put on a stolid face and utter the most common and false statement, "I'm fine." They are almost officious with the amount of sucking up. Said friend tries to play it off like she didn't mean to hurt you, she udders "I am sorry" and gives you a hug. All the while you think "wow, how full of crap."  In this moment, you are ominous, knowing exactly what her intentions were. You just want to grow rampant, and if there were not consequences, you would probably march to the person's house who insulted you and clock him right in the mouth. So what to do when in this situation, well you have two choices: remain dignified and simply brush off your shoulders and forget about it or go out throwing punches.